Published on 07/21/2007

2 Part Series

Healing from Abuse

Hosts: Kenneth H. Patey & Sharon Patey
Getting Your Voice & Your Life back

In our work over the past 25 years we have had the privilege of walking side by side with individuals who have experienced physical, sexual, psychological, emotional, verbal, spiritual, and financial abuse. One thread that keeps surfacing in these survivors is the fact that they often feel they have lost their voices. Since virtually everything they said in their relationships was either challenged or discounted, they began to accept the explanations from their partners (their stressors) for why they were being abused. To take a stand and speak out meant they would be subjected to even MORE abuse.more...

Most of them came to believe that whatever abuse they were experiencing was their own fault. Silence for them had become the better part of valor. Saddest of all is the loss of their sense of self.

You are a person of worth-"God did not make any junk." To survive, you may have had to put on a façade. If you did, thank goodness for that! This is why you are here today. Know that your unique talents and gifts are NOT lost. They have just been protected and stored in a secret compartment deep inside you. Come learn how to claim back who you really are, see that the tools to recovery are truly at your finger tips, and that your past experience can be the foundation stones to wisdom and self understanding, and that YOU are the most important person in this world. Learn how to let the REAL YOU STAND UP.less...

This is a 2 part series. Individual episodes or the entire series are available for purchase.

Part 1: Understanding Abuse is Step One
Marriages that quickly turn to abuse begin, more likely than not, with pretense. Either one or both parties hide from the other character traits which, had they been recognized, should have been clear indicators that they were heading for a relationship that would be far less than blissful! (We give a nod here also to Predictive Relationship Profiling.)

Part 2: Defining Self is Step Two-Claiming Back Your Inner Sense of Rightness
Have you ever had the feeling that you are not sure who you are, or perhaps you have asked yourself this question, "Who am I?" Do you define yourself as "Robert's wife"? Have you lost touch with your personal hopes, your dreams, your own unique personality? THEY ARE NOT LOST! The chaotic world in which you live is screaming so loudly that you cannot hear your own voice. You have merely become subject to the voices of others! You CAN reconnect with YOUR REAL YOU-THE INSIDE SELF!